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Beth – My Story

My name is Beth. This is my story.

My story is multigenerational. When I told my parents in the 1990’s that I was bisexual they treated it like a weird fetish. It came up in a fight with my dad, when I was out with a girlfriend past curfew.

I had been avoiding telling him the reason I was a few minutes late and once I did, he almost refused to ever hear another word about it. Any mention of my attraction to women was shushed with a comment about how it made him uncomfortable.

Meanwhile, my mother treated it like I might infect other kids and get her in trouble. It was weird. I felt the need to hide my truth, and every time I was with a woman I felt fetishized and extra visible.

When it came to my babies, I changed the narrative. I asked them, “What kind of person do you think you’ll marry someday?” We discussed that in terms of male and female people, sure, but we focused on what people would like, enjoy, and be interested in. I wanted my kids to find *good* partners someday, regardless of the gender – and that starts by recognizing what we want in romance.

I’m pleased to say that three out of the four kids I raised have partners they truly want to share their time with. All three of them present as heterosexual, even if my trans son kind of walks the line of the technical definition of straight.

I have no more or less Pride in any of my children, but I sincerely hope that whatever romantic partner they find takes good care of them and that they receive all the respect they deserve.

As a grown adult, I can finally embrace my identity honestly, with partners who love me for all of who I am. It may have taken me 38 years to get to where I can finally be encouraged to love all of myself, but my partners, children, and friends all recognize that person and love me honestly.

Even my family is finally realizing that they need to accept me for who I am and not who they want me to be. It took time and hard work, but it’s finally feasible to honestly and fully be my authentic self.

Finally.

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